Anyway, needless to say, that night a miracle occurred. AJ's blood pressure stabilized (they took him off all blood pressure meds), he finally urniated (which confirmed that his kidneys had not failed), the hole in his heart closed (without surgery), and his lungs stop bleeding (his body began accepting blood and platelets). Whew, what an incredible night and it all happened before the midnight (while the pessimisistic doctor was still on duty). And of course, our answer to withdraw care was a definite "NO"!
Over the nexts few weeks we didn't have any major severities, however he still had hydrocephalus and would have to have surgery. He recovered very quickly from the surgery and three weeks later, he was 4 lbs, 12 oz (still very tiny, but he was strong and definitely a fighter).
I guess overall we've been extremely lucky because the first year home, we didn't even have an emergency room visit and to this day, we've not had any shunt malfunctions. This past year, was somewhat difficult. We've have numerous ER visits (all very scary) but they were all a result of gastric reflux which caused him to dehydrate and need fluids. He eats very well and had not had to have a feeding tube since we left the NICU.
I guess the most difficult part has been the cp diagnosis. We didn't know what to expect. Everybody kept telling us that he would "catch up" by the time he turned 2. Well, he'll turn 3 on the 24th of this month and he still doesn't have any trunk control. He can sit unassisted for all of 5 seconds before falling over. His vocabulary is very limited. He only says a few words right now, but we are definitely sure that his cognitive ability is growing.
There are many rough days, but for the most part I'm blessed and really can't complain. AJ is a tremendous blessing and his dad and I have both developed enormous love and growth since his birth.